How To Determined Toxic Relationships

Over the past few months I've really found out who are really there for me in my life and who aren't. It's funny the amount of people who you keep around or feel a need to keep around just they're family and you have to. Well you don't have to. I've struggled with this for a while my in life with different people and have learnt with family in particular it is hard. In fact it's even worse when it's your feeling like you have to be constantly putting up with them making you feel shit and bringing you down for no reason. I will never understand people's intention for making people feel like shit and that they're nothing on a daily basis just to make themselves feel better?

Over the past few months I've really been feeling down about a lot of people in my life who have make me feel shit for being myself and no one should ever have to feel like that. It's something I've practically felt my whole life that being who I am isn't acceptable enough and it's not fair. I shouldn't be told that I am a weak person I don't make other people feel like shit or made out to be something I'm not your dealing with your own issues. These people you really do have to just take a step back from and think about if they bring anything good into your life and any positivity because they will just continue to try and tare you down.

A few years ago I accepted myself and i'm not going to just give that all up and how hard I worked to do that just because someone's decided they don't like me or who I am isn't good enough for them. I don't have to try and fit myself by other people's criteria or standards and that's not being selfish that's being true to yourself. It's hard when you've had a previous friendship or family relationship with someone not to care about what they think of you but honestly if that relationship is damaging you have to make a choice and what it's going to continue to do to you.

And yes I have cut people off now and lost all respect for people but i'm stopping letting every word that they say about me or to me control my life and how I feel about myself. Focus on the people in your life that care about you and people who love you and build you up and make you a stronger version of yourself. People are going to hate no matter what you do sometimes just because that is the way they are, but only you can determined how you deal with it and if you let it get to you.